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The SS 2




These series started off as a rant, but I decided to be inspiring, (as usual, hehe), you can read the Kick off post here, and Part 1

Apparently, the contestants for Big Brother Nigeria this year have been quite entertaining, (I know someone would ask why I watch BBN; I can learn from anything, just the positives…in fact why am I explaining myself?) during Ifu Ennada’s (you don’t know her? Google her? Or rather search for her on Twitter, she’s quite popular there, I can’t come and be explaining who she is!) eviction interview one statement she made (that gave me an entire perspective of her personality) was “I chose to be intentionally single this year”. I was like, give that lady a round of applause! 

Being intentionally single doesn’t mean you are not beautiful enough to catch a man. It doesn’t mean you are not smart enough to find a partner. It doesn’t even determine your financial status to attract or retain the ladies. It simply means you are deciding to enjoy every moment of your singleness. 

Society says - yes, you are single, but they won’t complete the statement – not alone! Some would use semantics and say when you are single you are lonely, they change the definition of what single means, presenting a negative narrative.

Reality check; alone is not single; alone is not lonely! Learn to love your singleness.

Society would chant – your clock is ticking, yes, it is. (or you thought I’ll say something different here? – time waits for no one yo!) They would even quote Ecclesiastes 3.

Reality check; there is time for everything; ergo, a time to be single. Let us learn to apply this phrase even in this situation. Which is why it’s important to maximise your singleness. 

This is food for thought, just for you:

‘God created man first, then woman, before relationships (marriage), so He is very much concerned with you first – single, before the ‘ships’.

Stay tuned for part 3.


With love,
TheInspiredCutiee 😘 

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